Working Moms: Beware of Your Kids' Psychological Disorder

 

 

 

Nowadays, for any kid to get a full time mom is not so easy. The trend has been changing. Today a mother is a fulltime office going woman or a business  women.  Kids are not getting that much time they need from their mom. The working mothers have to go out, leaving their children. Though they try to arrange the best thing for their kids, sometimes the  kids face many psychological problems or diseases. And many of us are unknown to those. Some of the kids begin to hate their mom, some start to talk ill words, some suffer from insecurity complex, some don’t want to eat for the anger that grows because of being neglected by mom, some becomes stubborn because of loneliness, don’t want to sleep, behave brutally  etc. All of these sometimes effect them also physically and they might become sick.

 So whether to stay home with her children or continue working is one of the critical and most wrenching decision for a woman. Today moms across the country are finding innovative solution and they are constantly adopting them to suit their and their children’s need.

Separation Anxiety:

Naturally  kids want to be cared by their mom and be by their side all the time. Because from the very first moment  after their birth they come in touch of  moms.  A mother’s touch send the signal to his brain that this is the person who brought you in the world. Thus a interpersonal bond has been made between a mother and a child. They start to think that they are at the most secured place in their mothers' lap. The primary conditions for their living, all are served by mom. That’s why children are totally depended on their mother. After all this dependence, when mom starts to go to office or outside for work and  they are given to  baby sitters, maid servants or grand parents, usually the children get nervous and upset without  mom for 8 to 10 hours a day. Insecurity complex grows when they are left by the most loving person on the earth. A confusion is made by the children psychology. They start suffering from separation anxiety.

 Rumination disorder:

If a child starts separated from the mom, his or her anxiety turns to anger. Sometimes kids begin to suffer from eating disorder. Specially it happens to the kids of  one  to four years. Most of the time, they become skinny, lean and  thin. They show their angers and madness against their moms by refusing to eat. If anyone force them, they cry, sometimes vomit. They don’t chew only seat for hour with food in their mouth.   In doctors dictionary it is called Rumination disorder.

 Ipika:

A special  diseases caused by lack of mothers' proper care affection is named Ipika. Though it’s a rare diseases, they who suffer from this diseases, like to eat non-food material rather than food. Actually, by this behaviour, the child attracts their mom’s attention and affection.

  Sleeping disorder:

Those who suffer from separation anxiety because of mom’s leaving home, have got problem with sleep. Sometimes some kids try to be awake till their moms returns home. They think when they go to bed, again the mother is going to leave .Some children, time to time  wake up to find out whether their mom is by their side or not. Because of the insufficiency of proper sleep they become slowly mood swing. Mom should tell their kid before leaving home, otherwise this type of problem might occur.

Don’t give anything they want:

Some parents think that as none of them can give much time to their kids, they should be served  whenever or whatever they want . But it is not the proper way to express the love. To make-up, some parents bring new toys and gifts while returning home. But this might bring a very bad effect to your children’s future life. They may become used to get everything,  whenever they want . As a result the kid’s tolerance power begins to decrease. In future they  will  be very upset and frustrated if they don’t get anything that they want. If you  provide your kids with the daily wants, in future  they will be either materialistic or will face emotional problem. Some of them even might become suicidal, some might become drug addicted. So stop buying toys everyday instead  try to let them understand that they cannot get everything they want.

 What Should you do:

Not every working or office going mom faces this problem. Some of the kids suffer for this problem. Parents have to think about their physical as well as psychological needs to fulfill. A mom can solve it easily with the help of the father. In our country the maternity leave is granted only for 3 months, so most of the time it is a tough decision for the mother whether to choose, to stay home or continue working. Here are some coping strategies from work/ family experts:

--Try to spend as much time as possible with your children, select the right person who really can take care and  look after your kid properly.

--Sit down with your husband and divide the duties , who will pick up the laundry, who will do dry cleaning, who will cook; share all those stuff with him so that you can give much more time to your child while you are at home.

--If you are  feeling guilty take steps to alleviate it. Set aside an extra 15 minutes to spend with your baby before you leave for work or if possible check in of your child during the day.

 --If you others make feel ashamed of your choice discuss your feeling with women in your situation and keep in mind that only you know what is best for your family.