Extramarital
Relation
If
the Wife is Involved What should the Husband Do
Women are not free from adultery either. Though not as frequent
as men, they are also found to be involved in extramarital
relationship with some other men. But there is a significant difference
with that of men's. A woman has a very sensitive relationship
called motherhood. She has a special attachment to her children. So it is easier
to bring a woman with extramarital relation restore to the original
state. As a husband
you have some steps to follow to set her back on track. Check the
following:
Maintain a gap
Make a physical and mental distance with her. Never try to make
a quarrel to bring her back. Keep gentle and behave normally. If she in
about to go out at the time of your office-going , ask her if she needs lift. If
she agrees, take her with you. Maintain a gap while
opening the door of the car in the same way you do with other women. Avoid
touching her in the way you did before during regular household activities. But if she
is touched unconsciously don't say 'sorry' as it may sound peculiar.
Avoid physical relation
Completely avoid physical matters
with her and don't try to resume it. Your
being apart from her and stopping physical relation will create a sense of insecurity within her.
Shake her role as a mother
In spite of continuing a relation with some other man she surely does
not want to shake off her role as a mother. You can make her feel insecure
by playing her role i.e. the role
of loving mother. Give your Children more time than you did before. Because
she is giving her time to somebody else, your wife in now unable to maintain her time. She
can not give much time to the children. As for example, she used
to feed the children, but now she gets it done by servants . Take this
advantage . If possible, come home from office at launch hour and feed
your babies and make them sleep. Don't wait till she is back to catch
her red handed. Being back when she will come to know that you came back
home, she will feel insecure. She may ask you why you came home at such
odd time.
Don't avoid her question. You can say that you had a business nearby and
so you came. Possibly ask in a very casual manner if she went out for
any business. She will be confused about what are you really going
to decide or think of her.
Carefully snatch the babies from her
Right being back from office sit beside the children to tell them
stories. It will not be bad to go with them for a outing telling your wife
that you are going out to eat with them. Don't take your wife with
you. If children asks her to go, tell them something like she has a business
and, therefore, cannot go. When she will realize that the children are about to
be occupied by you, she may come back . Because she can leave you, but
the children. For the sake of children she may came back
from the temporary aviation.
Come to a decision
After all these initiatives if she does not came back, tell her that
you want divorce. Tell her that you are allowing her to live with that
man if she likes , but you are not going to tolerate her
two-fold role. Also tell her that you are going to take the
custody of the children and you are not prepared to allow
her to take the children. It may be intolerable to her and she may
come back. If she
does not, do think that she is impossible to bring back.
If you think it will be very harmful for you children to be separated,
think twice. If you think her essential for a proper nourishment of your
children, don't be separate. Hide the total thing and never create
quarrel. It may hamper your children's life . Or if you think it quite
impossible to stay with her in that situation, separation is the only
way out.
