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Bulletins Bulletin : Published and Discussed
Date: Wednesday, May 14, 2003
From: KonkaBoti
Subject:
ref: motherhood and freedom ( long)
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freedom and motherhood topictar uporye goto koydin etto chomotkar alochoan holo, aami mugdho! bushra'r argument dekhe bar bar aami nijer argument vule gehci. opsi etto shundor korye nijer mot futiye tuleche emon ekta gomvir topic-e, amai obaak hoye dekehci. Shobcheye obaak koreche amake NETROMEO!! ekat cheler kaach theke etto chomotkaar alochona, aami aasha-i korini. ei bishoyta niye chelear shadharonoto khuub ekpeshe alochona korye (most of the time). aamr ek friend ke jiggehs korlam, ei bishoyta niye bb te alochoan hocche, eta shomporke tomar ki mot? se bollo: ki jaani, eta niye amai kokhono vabini to! bollam, tobey ebar vaabo. se bollo: ki korye vabbo, aamr to kono experience nei. topicta niye behsir bhaag chele, jader biye hoyni tara emoni bolbe bole aamar dharona. dharonar shopokkhe jukti-o deya jaay. topic ta niye Net romeo aar Kuashaa chara aar kono chele ki kotha boleche? mone porche na.

Netromeo'r dike aamr shroddha koykgun bere geche.

jaaihouk, eta gelo vumika. tobey ei bishoytate aamr je motamot debo, seta torker kahtirye torko noy. eeta aamr ekanto bektigoto onuvutiei, nijer oviggota theke neya. aamar kothagulo jodi kaaro vaalo na laage, aami dukkhito. kauke choto baa heyo korar jonno aami ekahne kichu bolchi na.

aamr kaach Matritto naaree shadhinotar protibondhok, naa naree shadhinota matritter protibondhok, eta ekta biraat proshno. tobey aamar mone hoy, duitai duitar protibondhok. paachti baccha'r jonmo diyechen je naree, taar kaache shadhinotar je shonga aar je naree ekhono maa honni, taar kaache shadhinotar shonga ek noy. aabar jiboner 35 ta bochor shadhinotar ( shabolombitar) jonno shongram korye je naree hotat maa hotey chan, taar matritto-o khuub nishkontok noy. bishoyta vabbar motoi.

aamar motey, meyder shamne duita option thaka dorkar. 1. carrier 2. motherhood. jara carrier niye vabbe, tara shudhu carrier niyei vabbe. carrier gorar cheshta korye jabe. purush der pasha paashi compete korye carrier gorbe. taara maa hote chaibe na. aar jara mootherhood er option nebe, taara kebol maa-i hobey. tara carrier niye vabeb na. je kono carrier-e nijer jayga kore nebar moto-i, ekjon shofol maa tar shontan er maddhome nijer obosthan ghoshona korte paren shomaje, para uchit. work aar mootherhood er balance ekta khuub-i durbol ebong hasshokor jukti. ei duitar balance kokhonoi shomvob na, jemon shomvob na shonar pathor baati.

maa howa kono shoja kotha na, kono khela noy. prithibir shobcheye biraat abng bisshoyykor srishti ta jokhon protinioto ekjon manusher shoreere ghotche, taake sei shomoy kichutei aar doshjon shadharon manusher shathey ek katare rekhe bichar kora uchit na. maa howa kono snap shot bepar na. ekta meye maa hote chaile oneek aage thekei taake preperation nite hoy. sei preperation shareerik ebong manoshik. carrier niye purushder shathey compete korte giye sei preperation aamra kototuku nite paari, seta ektu vebe dekah jete pare. Shadhincheta meyder ebong jara meyeder shadhinota'r pokkhe kotha bolen taader ekta kotha praay-i bolte shuni: "Pregnancy is not a sickness". Hasshokor kotha.

Pregnancy is not a sickness: i agree. Kintu eta ekta special time, ei shomoyta protita meyer toposshay katano uchit. ekjon maa er chinta, vabna, kaaj, aachoron, khabar ek kothay din raat, ghum ebong jagoroner protita muhurto kivabe ekta "sustho ebong shundor" manusher srishtite provab fele taa ajkaal scientifically proved. ei bishoye bistarito keu jante chailey internet search diye-i prochur information jana jaabey. www.Babycenter.com is a nice site for the detail information on this topic.

eto gelo maa hobar aager kotha. maa hobar porer? breastfeeding je ekta bacchar jonno koto important seta ekhon choto baccharaow jaane. tarpor? ekta shishur sharbokkhonik porichorjja, shikkha shoho manoshik ebogn shareerik development-e maa'r je role, seta ki aar kaara pokkhe neya shomvob? aamar nanny raakhi, bacchake childcare /daycare center-e dei. kintu, ei shob ki maayer role nite paare?

nijer jiboner jonno ekta meye kon optionta nebe, mootherhood naaki carrier, seta shurtei thik korye neya uchit.

Shobaike dhonnobad.







People Discussion
cluster11
(Wednesday, May 14, 2003)

Nice explanatory post from Konka. I strongly disagree with the supposed "conflict" between motherhood and carrier. I have had the good fortune of knowing two woman, both mother, one fitting the "career woman" type and other "at-home" mom. And from that experience I do not see a conflict between career and motherhood. I will elaborate more on this later in a seperate post because B2K has a bug in reply post limit.

ClusterOne


haha
(Wednesday, May 14, 2003)

I remember reading a report last year on working women in the US. The findings show that women who had successful business career and made it to the top either had to put off marriage at a later date or despite getting married early, did not have a child until the later years of their lives. I wont go into the debate of whether career and motherhood can go hand in hand. But there are certain professions where motherhood can definitely be an obstacle not only for the working women but also for other people. Think of a woman psychiatrist lets say she practised for 5 years and then had to go on maternity leave. What will happen to her patients? Will they go back to a new psychiatrist and start from the scratch? Undoubtedly, the first woman psychiatrist who regularly held sessions for all these patients for 5 years is in the best position to take care of them. So its not that simple.

haha
(Wednesday, May 14, 2003)


I personally think that a woman should decide whether she wants to pursue a career or whether she wants to settle down as a homemaker or whether she wants to do BOTH given that she has experienced/understood her life under the both conditions and she makes her decision on her own without having to worry about any repercussions at the family and societal level. So the question is not whether career and motherhood can go hand in hand but whether women have the right to make their decision in this regard on their own whatever that decision maybe. All the women in the world wont have a consensus on this topic as long as they make their own decisions and they are happy in their own terms, the question whether career and motherhood can go hand in hand becomes irrelevant. After all, there is no single solution that will work for everyone and happiness can be achieved in many different ways.


KonkaBoti
(Wednesday, May 14, 2003)

thank you very much hahaa. You have explained it soo rightly. Thanks again.

NetRomeo
(Thursday, May 15, 2003)


I feel so much honored, KonkaBoti..

Chhele howatai bodhoy aamar plus, meye hole hoyto society'r program er bairer kichhu aamar brain-e aasto na - aasleo bolar aage pachbaar chinta kortam...

NetRomeo
(Thursday, May 15, 2003)

(continued...)
Aar kichhu jodi bolei feltam...taahole BUSHRA'r moto porokkhonei (voy peye...) setaake emonvaabe manipulate kortam, mone hoto...aami society'r current flow-er ekjon strong supporter...

NetRomeo
(Thursday, May 15, 2003)


KUASHA'r posting ekhon porlam...aapni jaante cheyechhen "nijer career, nijer jeebon shob thik rekhey maattreetto key additional responsibility hishebey kaader pokkhey neya shombhob? aapni jaader kotha bolchhen aamra ki taader kotha bhaabchhi? na bhabbo?"....

Aamar mone hoy eta khub simple...aapnio jaanen. Eta taader pokkhei somvob, jaader oi favorable factor gulo (associated wid this) aachhe..ebong bolai bahullo, taader sonkha aamader society te (Bangladesh) oti olpo...aar sejonnei aamar alochonaey eder beparta pradhanno paeni, peyechhe majority'r prosongo...jaader ogulor kichhui nei.

Anyway, apnar lekha khub methodical, khub sundor...

||kuashaa||
(Thursday, May 15, 2003)

aar bhai methodical...kichhui jaani na aasholey ekhon bujhtey paarchhi.

jaanar ei shujog ta korey debar jonney Nijhum er kaachhey greatful thaaklam.

bushra
(Thursday, May 15, 2003)

Konka apu, onek din por apnar likha dekhe valo laglo. valo thakben apu .

Net bhaiya, ami moteyo society-r current flow-er supporter na !!! amar likha pore bujhi tae mone holo ??...amar mathae bari Image Code: 01-017...likha boro hoe jawae je line koeta delete korechilam tar moddhe 'example' gulo chilo...'pore manipulate' bole evabe amake manipulate korben janle ki ai kaj kori ... Image Code: 00-016

kuashaa bhaiya, apni kichu janen na bolar poro joto kichu janen ami tao jani na . shottie Nijhum er ekta 'thanks' paona, kintu posting die-e uni to 'hawa' 'hawa' hoe gechen !! hmm bhaiya, bujhte parlam...online e matha gorom o hoe.

cluster bhaiya , apnar likha pore ae gan-er kotha mone porlo---"barandae ruddur,ami aram-kedarae boshe due pa nachae re.."(bhumi). apni darun likhchen, ami ekhon ektu aram kori. sujog thakle lukie kichu point bole ditam Image Code: 15-015 , kintu tar too upae nai !!!

NetRomeo
(Thursday, May 15, 2003)


@ bushra...funny..!!


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