“Mom !! I’ve got a great news!! At last I got the opportunity.….my
dream came true….. I got the chance.” ,Shermeen was too
excited to have the chance to ask her mother what’s the news
about. Without any break she continued, “I
just have got promotion as a …… of the Chittagong
office. I have to leave Dhaka and join my new office within next
week.”
But the next few days were totally different than what she was
dreaming on. Her all excitements were thrown away by her parents.
The only reason is : ‘Her parents loved her so much that they
couldn’t let her go in a new and unknown (for her) place
alone.’ Neither of her parents agreed to leave her.
She
tried to convince her parents saying that she’s no longer a
child , she could take care of herself, she’d be safe. In
reply her parents told her outright that if she went they would
severe all ties with him. So Sharmeen didn’t go, she didn’t
want to hurt her parents. But in trying to prevent her parents
from being hurt, she was hurt herself and badly by her parents'
selfishness. In forcing her not to go her parents may have been
thinking that they are doing it out of love or care for her.
But what actually happened was that the seeds of discontent were
sowed in Sharmeen’s relationship with her parents.
“What’s wrong with Sunil? I love him and I believe I will be happy
getting MARRIED WITH THE man I love
rather than the unknown person that you have chosen for me,” Shumi argued with her parents.
But
according to her parents they love their child most than anyone on
the earth, they brought her on the earth, only they know what’s
wrong and what’s
right for her. When they started creating pressure on her for the
sake of their that love, that she owe
them, they
gave her through twenty two years of her life, she was totally
confused. But this time she didn’t listen to her parents,
she got married to the person she loved. She thought she was adult
enough at least to
know who she could trust on and who she couldn’t.
She
thought after the marriage when her parents going to see they are
happy with each other and having a good married life , they will
forgive her. But her parents was so hurt that
refused to let her enter the house. No amount of apologies,
pleas and tears could make them forget the hurt. What they
didn’t realize was that by their determined coldness, they were
hurting their own daughter whom they loved so much
. Sometimes we hurt those we love, we forget how much we love
them.
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Anita
was 18 years old. She had been planning for her college picnic for
months. This is not an ordinary picnic. This is the last chance to
enjoy with the whole class with who she had been for eleven years
together in the same school. She got the permission from her mom.
Actually her Mother couldn’t say anything after watching
her daughter’s every day's preparations and her excitements about the picnic. But the last day
without any second thought at the moment her father heard about
the picnic he screamed, “
No! No way!! It’s impossible! It’s not safe for you to be
there with all those girls in Gazipur. I can’t let u go. What
happened if there’s any trouble with the car or any accident
would occur on the way??”
When Anita started sobbing
he said softly," Sweetheart,
don’t break your papa’s heart. Try to understand!! Well!
We’ll go together for a picnic but cancel your college’s
picnic..
For
her dad’s love her heart was broken into pieces, she couldn’t
go. Her dreams were shattered, all her plans for the picnic were
ruined. She missed the last chance to enjoy with
her dearest friends and teachers whom she had been loving
through all these years.
It happens in our lives many time when our loving parents do not
give any value of their children sentiments. The only reason is
they love; they do care for us.. But this type of love sometimes
hurts the child. It’s really very painful for them time to time.
They think whatever they do, or whatever they think about their
kids is the best thing because they are the ones who love the kids
most than anyone else on the earth. This might be true but they should
consider their children’s feelings, what they think, what they
want and what they don’t.
It
pays to remember that however close and loved the child is, he or she
isn’t an extension of their beings or their property. The
best way to love a person is to acknowledge that the other’s is
an individual in her
or his own sight, who has feelings, needs and opinion of
his or her own. Love doesn’t give the right to think, feel,
judge and act on their behalf. The more parents remember this the
less chances there will be of hurting their child by their love.
Tanzia
Farha
Student
of BBA
North
South University
Dhaka,
Bangladesh
